Repro Freedom Voices: Freedom to be Heather

Heather St. Amand remembers exactly the day her daughter, Isabelle, came into the world. It was 10:15 p.m. when her medical providers rushed her into the operation room for an emergency C-section after 13 hours being in labor. Her baby’s heartbeat started going down, and she had an umbilical cord wrapped around her neck.

“They did the C-section and I remember the light. I remember being cold,” said Heather. “I remember them giving me something and me throwing it right back up. And then I remember them taking her out.”

Fast forward 18 years later, and Heather is now leading the ACLU of Virginia’s organizing effort to rally Virginia voters to amend Virginia’s Constitution to protect reproductive healthcare.

Her daughter, now a young adult, has been her sidekick at rallies, community events, and outside abortion clinics – joining Heather in the fight to destigmatize abortion and defend reproductive freedom.

Heather is open about her abortion story and how access to reproductive healthcare has saved her life and allowed her to eventually give birth to Isabelle.

She has testified before Virginia lawmakers, spoken at public events, ran a book club, and organized Virginians to raise awareness about the reproductive freedom constitutional amendment. In all those contexts, she uses her own story to help people understand that abortion is healthcare and that everyone should be able to make decisions about when and how to start a family free from fear and government interference. Here’s her story.

I am fighting for abortion rights because I had access to it when I needed it the most. Everybody should have that access. I am fighting for everybody behind me. I kind of took for granted these fundamental rights, and when they started disappearing, I realized we’re never going to be done with this fight. I’ve got to keep fighting for the people behind me – people are dying right now without access.

I’ve always been a vocal advocate, but watching what happened in Florida, I vowed that when I moved here, to fight to make sure that Virginia does not turn into anything like Florida, that people can still have those rights here. That [experience] really affirmed my commitment that we need to hold it down here for the South, and we need to set that example.

My mom, and my daughter – I feel very blessed to have such a good kid, my daughter, and to have my mom. Being a mom is honestly the coolest thing I’ve ever done in my life. My daughter is like my little broke bestie. When I had my daughter, I planned her. For a long time, I didn’t think I wanted kids, until I did. But once I had her, everything changed. I was in my 20s when I had her, so I kind of grew up with my daughter. We are super close.

My mom is my favorite person. We are also really close – so moving away from her was super hard, especially around the holidays, because she always works to make them so special. I do know that I wouldn’t be here right now if my mother hadn’t had access to an abortion between my sister and myself. I think about that a lot.

My mom has been very open and candid with me about [her abortion story]. They were not in a place where they could afford another child. She kind of instilled that in me. Even though she’s from Alabama and people don’t talk about that stuff, my mom wanted to change that.

We talked about it – after the fact. For the longest time, I didn’t talk to my mom about my abortion when it happened, because I was young, and there was shame attached to it for me. You’re conditioned to feel shame, [but] you shouldn’t feel shame for something that is just a normal part of healthcare.

I also told my daughter about my abortion story. I talked to her about everything. I feel like honesty, and being transparent about things, can help her know that she can trust me. And if she is ever going through something, and she knows that I have gone through it, maybe [she’ll think] ‘This is normal.’

I share my abortion story because I don’t feel ashamed anymore. And nobody should feel ashamed. I feel like if I share my story, it’s going to help somebody else know (1) you are not alone, (2) that it is normal, and (3) that people care and are fighting – people that understand.

Once, Izzy had a doctor’s appointment. I signed her out of school, and I couldn’t have taken her back [after the appointment]. We were driving down the road and passing the [abortion] clinic. It was in the middle of the day during the week. I noticed that there were [anti-abortion] protesters out there, and I am an organizer, you know, in the back of my car I got posters and stuff.

So we pulled over, made posters really quick, and went stood out there to counter the protesters. I recorded it. I livestreamed it on Facebook. I told Izzy: “We could be going back to school, or we could be doing this. And we’re going to do this.” And we did, and it was a good use of our time. They left, and that’s all I care about.

A lot of people just don’t understand how common all the things are that can happen to women when they are pregnant, or when they are trying to get pregnant – not just women, anyone who can get pregnant. When I share some of my stories, it explains to people why having access to reproductive healthcare matters.

I am so excited about passing this constitutional amendment. I am so excited about putting it into place for the generations that are behind me. I am so excited about them having that access [to reproductive freedom] strong, and in the state constitution.